Personal style can be defined in different ways and I believe there are many triggers to narrowing it down to what works for each individual. I think I said this in a previous post but I think confidence is the essential key to it all. If you exude confidence its alluring to all those around you and I don’t mean this in a superficial way because at the end of the day it is just clothing. What I mean is you attract all types of people and start relationships/friendships because of the energy you emit.
I’ve been a Tomboy ever since I was a kid, I dressed and acted like a boy because that’s how I felt most comfortable. In high school is when I saw all the pretty girls walking around in cute little clothes and felt that that is what I needed to look like in order to fit in. I went as far as to switching my nickname to Tammie with an IE because it looked feminine and TJ was out the door. I never really felt myself and was lost in repetition. I look back now and wish I had the balls back then to say “Hey I’m TJ” and stick to it.
Now that I’m almost 30 and have kids of my own I’ve learned to be unapologetically me. I love a good oversized hoodie but also like a cream blush. When you stop caring of what others perception may be of you is when you start living for yourself and saying yes to things that aren’t the “norm” for you. I worked with Rebecca Minkoff last month which was such a great experience. Some of the items I was put in weren’t something I would typically gravitate towards but I said I’m going to try something different for a change… Lemme tell ya I felt pretty bad ass in all of it, especially that pink feather coat!
Self-confidence is difficult to come by because we all have insecurities but accepting and owning them because they’re yours is the most liberating feeling ever! Trust your instincts and personality because ultimately that is what your clothing style reflects. Oh and that bullshit where because you are a mother you need to look the part, tell society to save it… You’re still an individual and being a mom is a part of who you are but isn’t the only thing that defines you either!
I have one of those smart-ass personalities so I make fun of myself and the hateful comments that troll in. Let’s be realistic… you can’t impress everyone but at the same time who’s really trying to? Let the bad shit be bad and just keep it moving, leave it there at that very moment. All you can do is be the best version of yourself and be comfortable while doing so. Don’t let other people ruin your swag…